It’s hard to describe to the uninitiated the sense of utter shock that losing your spouse brings. I remember having thoughts that verged on the ridiculous. Did a meteorite just smash into the earth and open up a jagged hole bigger than the Arizona crater beneath me? Because that’s what it felt like. I remember…
When my husband died, although I didn’t discover it till much later, I cried so much that my eyelashes fell out! I didn’t connect the two until I showed a friend the huge gaps in them. “I think your eyelashes were probably washed away in the river of tears” she said and I realized she…
Losing someone you love is traumatic. But we don’t talk about the deep trauma of death very often. Of course, we tend to identify certain deaths as traumatic; accidents, violence, suicide and the deaths of the young long before their time. But even if you go in your sleep after a long life well-lived, someone…